I took off the wedding band and made a tight fist around it. This, I thought, is what it is to own something unique. It’s about the one-on-one relationship with the jewelry. Well almost…. Having come to me through my own mother, my ring and pendants have been emotionally laundered. When I wear them, they remind me not of my frosty grandmother, but of the woman who somehow managed to become the parent her mother never was. The jewelry doesn’t represent what I never had; it represents what I have now. I’m only too happy to take Crespo’s advice and hold on to the things I love.